I ran across an article today with some good insights and advice. Here is a bit, check out the rest of the article.
Put your marriage before your kids - Yahoo! News: "So here s the solution To raise great kids focus on your marriage. There are three keys to a successful marriage and family: 1 Recognize that we ve already chosen the perfect spouse. No we would NOT choose better next time; 2 Recognize how often our fight-or-flight instinct overrides our passion in marriage. To create a happy marriage we need to go from the fantasy 'It s his her fault that I m unhappy' to the truth 'I wouldn t do any better in my next marriage so I might as well give 100 percent to this one;' and 3 Recognize that if we build a great marriage we create a great role model for our kids and they learn self-reliance and cooperation in the process."