Tuesday, May 01, 2007
Weeding is a chore I used to hate. I would put it off and it would be an all day job or it just wouldn't get done. The kids dreaded it as well. It just seemed impossible to keep up on all the weeding that needed to be done.
What changed? We re-did one of our flowerbeds that was completely overrun. It ended up looking so nice, but then the weeds started coming back. Stupid weeds. We pulled the little weeds and the flowers looked so nice and so happy. Thing was, it took so much less time when the weeds are small than when they get bigger and have a chance to get intertwined with the flowers.
Pulling the weeds consistently when they are small gives two advantages. First, the overall time spent weeding goes way down. Sure I have to weed every other day, but it isn't really a chore anymore. Second, my daughter likes to help so we get a few minutes to talk and have fun together. What was once a dreaded chore is now a pleasant time to work together and get to know each other.
A marriage will also get weeds: misunderstandings, resentments, hurt feelings, missed opportunities. Like weeds in the garden, these weeds will grow and take over if they are not pulled. Waiting until the marriage is full of these weeds will make pulling them out that much more difficult and painful.
Take time regularly to get rid of those little weeds that pop up.
* If you have a misunderstanding, work on listening a little better so both partners feel understood.
* If you harbor a resentment, seek forgiveness
* If you have hurt your sweetheart's feelings, find a way to sincerely say sorry
* For each missed opportunity; recommit, learn and grow.
Just as weeding the garden adds to it's overall beauty and enjoyment, so weeding a marriage regularly adds to the overall enjoyment and satisfaction of each member of the family.