All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.As you probably know, Bruce Lee was a martial arts expert as well as a movie star. He even created his own form of martial arts.
In martial arts, patterns are fixed routines, similar to a choreographed dance routine. A pattern consists of a set of movements and are an important part of the study of martial arts. Part of receiving an advancement to the next belt rank involves mastery of a new pattern.
Bruce Lee recognized that, while patterns are important, they are only a tool. It would be foolish to expect to follow a pattern in a sparring match or a real fight and expect to win. Facing an opponent requires moving outside the pattern and reacting to the reality of the situation.
A marriage relationship has set patterns as well. Get up, go to work, come home, yard work, kids' homework, etc etc etc. Yet, as Bruce Lee noted, the truth is outside these patterns. Patterns, while important, become boring. Make time to move outside the patterns of life and into the romance.